Det är då vår nya ansökan ska upp i nämnden och, förhoppningsvis, godkänna oss på nytt!!!
Håll tummarna ;)
Kram fr C & J
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onsdag 26 mars 2014
torsdag 13 mars 2014
Kontakt med AC
Vi har haft lite kontakt med AC under veckan. Egentligen var det frågor från vår sida gällande medgivandet och vår utredning men vi kunde ju inte låta bli att fråga om de har hört något från CRAN eller rent av om OSS.
Till svar fick vi att både AC och CRAN tror och har en förhoppning om att vi kommer att få barn detta året :) :)
Det låter HELT fantastiskt och även om vi försöker att inte lägga ner så mycket tankar eller känslor på det om dagarna så är det himla svårt att INTE göra det... :)
Kram C
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Till svar fick vi att både AC och CRAN tror och har en förhoppning om att vi kommer att få barn detta året :) :)
Det låter HELT fantastiskt och även om vi försöker att inte lägga ner så mycket tankar eller känslor på det om dagarna så är det himla svårt att INTE göra det... :)
Kram C
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lördag 8 mars 2014
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Läs gärna och reflektera över hur "man" klumpigt kan uttrycka sig och som i sin tur faktiskt kan "såra" adoptivföräldrar, bl.a. oss...
1. “Now you’ll get pregnant!”
Perhaps your friend is adopting because of infertility, but adoption is not a fertility treatment — and your friend is most certainly not adopting because she thinks, “THIS will do the trick!” When you say this, it can also make your friend feel as though you’re not excited about her adoption and view it as a “second choice”.
2. “He’s so lucky!”
Adopted kids are anything but lucky. They have experienced the loss of a first family and perhaps even the loss of their birth country and language. These kids don’t feel “lucky” to come to America — they are grieving the loss of their home and everything that is familiar. When you say this, it glosses over that loss.
3. “How much did he cost?”
Our child is not a car. If you really need to know this, Google it.
4. “Can’t you just go and pick him up?”
Umm…no. Because that would be kidnapping.
I once saw someone make this comment when a girlfriend shared a post on Facebook about how much she was aching to hold her daughter in Congo. It took every ounce of self-restraint I had not to comment and say, “Because she wants her daughter to languish in an orphanage just a little while longer.” Adoptions are a complicated business and they take time, and it’s not because we adoptive parents aren’t doing everything in our power to move things along.
5. “We’ve always wanted to adopt. But first we are going to have a few of our own.”
Along these same lines are “Do you have any real kids?” or “Is your daughter your own, or is she adopted, too?” If you must differentiate between kids who are adopted and not adopted, terms such as “biological” or “birth children” are the ones to use. When you distinguish our bio kids by calling them “your own” or “the real kids”, then you make it seem as though the adopted child is not truly part of our family.
6. “Why didn’t you adopt from America? There’s plenty of kids here that need homes.”
Yes, this is true — but we are not obligated to only adopt from our own country. Should children from Ukraine/China/Ethiopia/Congo/etc. be disqualified simply because they aren’t from here (and have no one available in their birth country to parent them)? Adoption from ANYWHERE should be celebrated.
7. “Don’t adopt from Ukraine. My neighbor’s second cousin’s uncle did, and their kids were totally messed up from Fetal Alcohol Syndrome.”
What I mean by this is, when someone tells you she’s adopting, don’t share with her your adoption horror stories. Adoptive parents are required to go through adoption training. They are well aware of the challenges they may face and don’t need you to point them out.
8. “I totally know what you’re going through. I adopted a dog once.”
It’s not the same. I promise.
9. “What happened to his real mom?”
I’m his real mom. A better way to distinguish me from his first mom is to use the term “birth mom”, because when you say it this way it demeans the importance of my role in my child’s life. And unless you are close friends with the person you’re asking this to, it’s best to respect the privacy of their child’s story and not even go there. You wouldn’t really approach a perfect stranger and ask her to share the details of her labor, would you?
10. “Are you worried he is going to have HIV/be retarded/be messed up?” and/or “Are you worried he will be black?”
These are all things that have been said to my friends or myself. For real. I hope I don’t have to explain to you why they are offensive.
Lite små tankar att bära med sig... <3
Kram C & J
Läs gärna och reflektera över hur "man" klumpigt kan uttrycka sig och som i sin tur faktiskt kan "såra" adoptivföräldrar, bl.a. oss...
1. “Now you’ll get pregnant!”
Perhaps your friend is adopting because of infertility, but adoption is not a fertility treatment — and your friend is most certainly not adopting because she thinks, “THIS will do the trick!” When you say this, it can also make your friend feel as though you’re not excited about her adoption and view it as a “second choice”.
2. “He’s so lucky!”
Adopted kids are anything but lucky. They have experienced the loss of a first family and perhaps even the loss of their birth country and language. These kids don’t feel “lucky” to come to America — they are grieving the loss of their home and everything that is familiar. When you say this, it glosses over that loss.
3. “How much did he cost?”
Our child is not a car. If you really need to know this, Google it.
4. “Can’t you just go and pick him up?”
Umm…no. Because that would be kidnapping.
I once saw someone make this comment when a girlfriend shared a post on Facebook about how much she was aching to hold her daughter in Congo. It took every ounce of self-restraint I had not to comment and say, “Because she wants her daughter to languish in an orphanage just a little while longer.” Adoptions are a complicated business and they take time, and it’s not because we adoptive parents aren’t doing everything in our power to move things along.
5. “We’ve always wanted to adopt. But first we are going to have a few of our own.”
Along these same lines are “Do you have any real kids?” or “Is your daughter your own, or is she adopted, too?” If you must differentiate between kids who are adopted and not adopted, terms such as “biological” or “birth children” are the ones to use. When you distinguish our bio kids by calling them “your own” or “the real kids”, then you make it seem as though the adopted child is not truly part of our family.
6. “Why didn’t you adopt from America? There’s plenty of kids here that need homes.”
Yes, this is true — but we are not obligated to only adopt from our own country. Should children from Ukraine/China/Ethiopia/Congo/etc. be disqualified simply because they aren’t from here (and have no one available in their birth country to parent them)? Adoption from ANYWHERE should be celebrated.
7. “Don’t adopt from Ukraine. My neighbor’s second cousin’s uncle did, and their kids were totally messed up from Fetal Alcohol Syndrome.”
What I mean by this is, when someone tells you she’s adopting, don’t share with her your adoption horror stories. Adoptive parents are required to go through adoption training. They are well aware of the challenges they may face and don’t need you to point them out.
8. “I totally know what you’re going through. I adopted a dog once.”
It’s not the same. I promise.
9. “What happened to his real mom?”
I’m his real mom. A better way to distinguish me from his first mom is to use the term “birth mom”, because when you say it this way it demeans the importance of my role in my child’s life. And unless you are close friends with the person you’re asking this to, it’s best to respect the privacy of their child’s story and not even go there. You wouldn’t really approach a perfect stranger and ask her to share the details of her labor, would you?
10. “Are you worried he is going to have HIV/be retarded/be messed up?” and/or “Are you worried he will be black?”
These are all things that have been said to my friends or myself. For real. I hope I don’t have to explain to you why they are offensive.
Lite små tankar att bära med sig... <3
Kram C & J
fredag 7 mars 2014
Tidsfördriv
Som ni säkert förstår så väntar och längtar Vi så in i vassen mycket efter att telefonen ska ringa!!! Man försöker att inte tänka men va F-N, de går ju bara inte att sluta drömma och hoppas och tänka och....
Jag har nu hittat en liten bisyssla som jag fördriver min väntan på och det är att göra armband! Tog även en chansning att sälja till andra så jag la ut en liten text och några bilder på Facebook-gruppen "Adoption Colombia" och det har slagit sååå väl ut :) Denna helgen ska jag sitta och göra 11 armband till personer runt om i landet som har en liten el stor Colombia-juvel :)
Detta har redan blivit sååå kul att göra så om någon av Er är intresserade som följer vår blogg så hör bara av Er!!! 80 kr för ett armband med valfri text :)
Haha, nu säljer jag in mig här oxå på min egen blogg!
Kramar C
Jag har nu hittat en liten bisyssla som jag fördriver min väntan på och det är att göra armband! Tog även en chansning att sälja till andra så jag la ut en liten text och några bilder på Facebook-gruppen "Adoption Colombia" och det har slagit sååå väl ut :) Denna helgen ska jag sitta och göra 11 armband till personer runt om i landet som har en liten el stor Colombia-juvel :)
Detta har redan blivit sååå kul att göra så om någon av Er är intresserade som följer vår blogg så hör bara av Er!!! 80 kr för ett armband med valfri text :)
Haha, nu säljer jag in mig här oxå på min egen blogg!
Kramar C
söndag 2 mars 2014
Testar att blogga med telefonen
Har precis lagt till vår blogg på min telefon och tänkte testa att skriva, lägga in en bild och publicera inlägget via telefonen. Håll tummarna!!!
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